Yes its true, according to MSN. com A new study just came out and its shocking but true.
Do you know where your spouse is at???


So Mrs. Merkin, when Mr. Merkin leaves the houuse and tells you he is "getting a haircut" ARE YOU SURE HE IS ACTUALLY GETTING A HAIRCUT??? Time to get out the Cattle Prod!

Good Lord! They're $7 at Nancy's (51st & Halsey) and include hot towels, head massage, ear-hair trim and he's back home in 15 minutes.

I'm more concerned about the length of time spent at the car wash, that always seems to take waaaaay too long! Maybe it's the extra special deluxe "Detail Service" he gets? Should a rub-down and "Armor All" really take more than an hour on a Vega?

And most men that have affairs, don't do it with women tied to organized crime, or women that they violate federal hiring laws to get them govt jobs.

Oh no in the minority again.

I don't believe that stat to be accurate. I mean, sure, maybe for Democratinc Governors - but surely not the average citizen. I don't buy that it's 60%

Well if in America our divorce rate is near or at 50%....
Husbands cheat on their wives at 60%....
The price per barrel of gas is around $108....
The Blazers are 35 and 33...
The stock market down 300 points today....

Let's see that equals.....ummm...uhhh....I just hate this new math.

You gotta throw in McCain is leading by 8 points,
Thrown in the circumference of the earth and divide by pi. Oh, and average in Jack Benneys true age.

Our divorce rate is over 50%, which makes a LOT of sense. Husbands are cheating! I think getting married is Ridiculous and I feel sorry for the poor saps that are stuck in a marriage and their life is a LIVING HELL because of this. I think couples should live together for atleast a YEAR before getting married. Or maybe not marry at all!I just don't think Men are really meant to get married, We were bread to NOT be manogamous, its in our genes to be promiscuous. Waking up to the same woman EVERY SINGLE MORNING FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE? Sitting on a rusty nail would be much more enjoyable.
I like to use the cereal analogy when it comes to being with one woman.
I love Cinnamon Toast Crunch, BUT after a while I get tired of it and start wanting Froot Loops and Frosted Flakes.

As a happily married man, I offer this to my unmarried comrades: If you are lucky enough to find the woman you love and that loves you unconditionally, the existence of Froot Loops or Frosted Flakes will no longer matter.

And most men that have affairs, don't do it with women tied to organized crime, or women that they violate federal hiring laws to get them govt jobs.

No the hookers these men hook up with are usually independent or sleazy pimped out ones. Beware of those spouses with expense accounts who travel alot.

One of my dads friends who he formerly did alot of business with came from a wealthy farming east-indian canadian family who had a whole second family on the side in the states. And he still managed to keep seeing the girls at the various Asian "massage" parlors. Do you want a happy ending with that?

I know that my dad is very pathalogical and doubt he has remained faithful to my mother. I love my parents but at the same am aware I don't want to become what they have become and do the things they have done.

A coworker of mine cheated on his wife and instead of giving his wife a diamond necklace for her birthday, he ended up giving her Genital Herpies. What a dumbass!

Or you can just go to a bathroom stall in Minneapolis Airport and get tap dancing lessons.

In April my wife and I will be celebrating 20 years. I love waking up to the same woman each day. I never have to reintroduce myself or try and remember her name.

It takes a REAL MAN to keep one woman satisfied for their entire life.

I do agree some couples should live together before marriage it can prove to be beneficial.

Vitalogy:
"If you are lucky enough to find the woman you love and that loves you unconditionally, the existence of Froot Loops or Frosted Flakes will no longer matter."

Bro- If I were a drinking man I'd offer you a beer for that statement.

Ok ... I have to interject here.

It isn't ALWAYS the man that cheats.

A very personal and sore subject right now, to say the least.

Chris Taylor I applaud you man! There is nothing wrong or strange at all with being managomous. Just wish some people could figure that out. It doesn't hurt if you get it all out of your system first before marriage though right?

Congrats Chris.

Mrs. Skybill and I will celebrate 24 yrs in December.

How anybody could put up with me for that long, I have no idea!! She's a saint!

X10 on what Vitalogy said too!

That is a good point Brianl its not just Men that cheat, Women do it too, but acording to the article a majority of the cheaters are men.
Why do they Cheat? Not getting enough sex was the reason.

The KSKD family is over 20 years too!

*Clinks Glass*

Clink!!

Amus family celebrates 30 years 2 months from today.

Can't imagine doing anything to jeopardize that.

"It doesn't hurt if you get it all out of your system first before marriage though right?"

No doubt I sowed some wild oats in my younger adult years. Something’s I'm not too proud of to be honest.

But it happened at the appropriate time in my life and never during my married life.

What I have learned in my married life are the three "A's": Being Attentive. Giving Affection. Being Available.

My wife and I are best friends, soul mates you name it. When disagreements happen we have found ways to work through them.

My dad said love is spelled w-o-r-k. Compromise and negotiate were some of my parent’s principles. Plus mutual respect.

I enjoyed my single days but with each passing year my relationship with my wife gets better and better.

The Warners are on 33 and counting. Sometimes it's been smooth sailing, sometimes a roller coaster ride. Both those things are exciting and worthwhile. So it is with our marriage.

Justin, as long as you are still scoping out other cereals, you should stay single. But I'd stay away from the "Frosted Flakes" and "Fruit Loops".

Those are the babes that can get you in trouble!

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Author: Amus
Thursday, March 20, 2008 - 8:18 am

Clink!!

Amus family celebrates 30 years 2 months from today.

Can't imagine doing anything to jeopardize that.

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Marriage is great for some people. For instance, I think about my parents and grandparents. Without faith and spouses in their life, they'd feel a huge void, I'm sure. But personally, I'm not a "joiner" in any aspect of my life. I rarely join boycotts, I don't belong to a church, and I'm registered as an independent voter. My point is that I like my freedom and I like keeping my options open, but not everyone is that way.

The only part of the marriage issue I resent is the expectation by my family that I get married someday (soon). They try not to bring it up, but I know they want to see me get married. And my grandparent's generation... wow. If they describe someone who died, even if they died at 30 or 35 years old, they start the description by saying "he never married". Ouch, that's the FISRT THING my Grandpa says if describing some lifelong bachelor he once knew.

If you're single, just tell them that you haven't found the right person yet, or ask if they'd just rather have you "playing house" instead.

After having 14 years of way big fun and assorted "shacking up" to my parents horror (Hey, rent is $$$$ in a ski resort) I married at ancient 34, after answering 1 WW ad; it's going on 14 years now...I actually can't believe that, as I type "14", it's gone by fast!

My point is: get "it" all out of your system before taking the plunge, so it's hopefully only once.

You're looked down apon in society if you don't get married at a certain age, which I think is crap! I know plenty of people who are 30+ and are not married and are VERY HAPPY with their lives. And isn't that really the only thing that matters, YOUR happiness?? I think it is! Don't let society, Or your parents, grandparents ect. dictate whenn you want to get married, do it on your own and if you dont want to get married don't.

Exactly!

On the other hand, what about my many girlfriends (incredibly awesome women ages 25-50) who DO want to find Mr. Wonderful, and not necessarily for the "end goal" of marriage. Where are they? (The guys, that is)

If your talking a "one night stand" Merkin, Trust me, they are out there.

No, they don't want that, most just looking for a nice guy to be in a relationship with, but they're not desperate to "marry".

(P.S. Where exactly are those "bad boys"?)

IMHO, as long as you view marriage as "the end of your freedom" it will be. Keep trolling the cereal aisle

My whole definition of "freedom" changed when considering marriage. I thought freedom was doing whatever, whenever, on my own, and liking it. I'm an only child: been doing it that way all my life. I'm that way now, and still liking it.

Been married...twice...to men who felt that way, it turns out. But I experienced the greatest freedom in my life as a married person: it's so liberating to feel like NO MATTER WHAT, someone besides your Mother is always in your corner, on your side, and to be able to trust that completely. And the freedom to be that for someone else is even more amazing.

I look forward to having that and being that for someone else.

Hey, Mrs. M: I can throw a stick and hit 10-15 of 'em from the front door LOL. Get the girls together and tell them we're going "bowling"

In our marriage vows I wrote that we weren't two halves looking to become whole. We were two whole people to begin with.

Freedom takes on new meaning when you have a family. I was single for 30 years. Loved it. I never had this feeling I "had" to get married. I wasn't really looking and then of course that's exactly the time I met my wife.

And it wasn't just her that I saw making a difference in my life it was the way my family and friends reacted to her. They had met other woman I had dated but they never verbalized it like they did when they met my wife.

I never let society dictate my own personal choices. Had I met my wife earlier I probably would have married her earlier. Now almost 20 yrs later it seems we did it the way that was right for us.

"And it wasn't just her that I saw making a difference in my life it was the way my family and friends reacted to her. They had met other woman I had dated but they never verbalized it like they did when they met my wife."

When you marry a person you marry a group of people, which is the family and friends of your spouse. The biggest mistake I made by marrying my wife is not making sure she got along well with my friends and family. It has been an unfortunate source of friction throughout our marriage.

60%, huh? Not happening at our house. However, a former friend of mine made up for other folks' fidelity. He was married three times, had multiple affairs each time, and dumped each wife for one of his new girlfriends.

Make you wonder. If the women he married knew he fooled around on his previous spouse(s), what made them think he wouldn't fool around on them?

I could never figure that one out.

Because some women have decided to play on the men's field: "If you have it, I want it, and I'll do what it takes to get it." Football, anyone?

Seriously, I don't get that either...if he cheated on her with you, he'll cheat on you with the next best thing, and those stories he told about why are the same ones she'll hear, too. Ask her over a beer someday.

Women do it,too, before you think I'm hatin' on ya'll!

Once a cheater is ALWAYS A CHEATER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I sincerely hope that's not true.

I believe a marriage can survive adultery. Not easily at first, but if both partners are willing to dig in, work on rebuilding trust (which could take years) and start a new way of communicating with the help of good counseling, it is possible that as the years pass a deepening of their relationship can and will be lasting.

Statistically someone who cheats on their spouse once, usually does it again. Its an addiction, a high, that some people can't live without. Was listening to Dr. Drew on Love Line the other day and even he said a very large percentage of people who cheat will do it again in the future.

I was certainly talking about the exception and not the rule.

I hope their are more exceptions to the rule! I don't think I could trust someone who cheated on me. I would always be paranoid wondering where they are at. It would be really unhealthy to have to sit and worry about ber all the time.
I hate to say it, bit If I was cheated on, I would kick her to the curb. Life is too short to deal with cheaters!

When you sit and think about how fucked up it is to cheat on someone, you really are a shallow person. For one, not only are you creating emotional scars. your also creating physical scars because who knows what STDS you are now giving to your partner. Would you really want to be with someone who does this, who just doesn't give a crap and knows what the consequences are but still does it anyway??

Wow ... this is all hitting home.

Chris is right IMHO, a marriage CAN survive adultery. Many make a lapse in judgement, have a brain fart, whatever ... and I'm not justifying it, don't get me wrong, but if both parties are willing to do whatever it takes to show their love and dedication from that point forward, it CAN be saved. Counseling, a lot of people go through their Church in matters like this ... a lot of soul searching ... but again, both sides have to WANT to. If one side is paying lip service to it, or they just don't want to and are going through the emotions, that's just delaying the inevitable.

What hurts MORE, IMHO, is when your wife/husband/partner just up and declares that you're not it ... and they've found someone else. The hurt and anger is a lot harder to get over ... and while there's finality to it instead of wondering IF it will work, ... wow.

I was certainly talking about the exception and not the rule. We have personally known couples who have survived adultery. The waters were rough but they did want to make it work.

ITS BACK! Just saw a news segment saying that 60% of husbands do cheat on their wives. This was from a different source. That just seems so high. A lot of cheaters out there.
GUYS ARE SUCH PIGS!

I know very few of my peers who are either:

-not remarried

-have cheated

-or some combination.

Chris, that's probably the toughest thing there is! And with all the risks today too. Can't even imagine putting my wife at that kind of risk. Heck, a single "nobody has to know" outta town romp could kill us both!

No thanks!

Hey, there is always healthy fantasy right?

60% sounds realistic. I just wonder how many of those are "pro-family" conservatives.

Im sure everyone on this board can name at least one person who they know that has cheated on their spouse. Infact, there might even be some cheaters on this board!

"60% sounds realistic. I just wonder how many of those are "pro-family" conservatives."

At least 50% or more.

Politics has nothing to do with cheating.

It is not the brain that is used

Politics has nothing to do with cheating.


Then why do all politicians cheat?

All? I dunno, I don't see Earl, Ron, Gordon and Darlene as the cheating types. I'm not sure about David and Greg. Former U.S. Rep. Wes Cooley? Most certainly.

Then why do all politicians cheat?

Same reason movies stars, pro athletes and normal everyday people do... SEX IS FUN!

People cheat because they can, and more often than not, politicians and other high profile people have more power and money than us regular folks, which enhances the ability for those people to cheat.